Home & Garden
I couldn’t stand my closet. It was overflowing with coats, jackets, work dresses, sundresses, long skirts, short skirts, pants, sweaters, scarves … shoes, boots, sandals. Enough to dress the female population of small country.
I had clothes for multiple roles mom, exercise enthusiast, media professional, friend, girlfriend and more. Let’s not even talk weight gain and loss. It’s no wonder my closet looked like several women lived there. They did.
Enter Jennifer Marks, a closet curator and stylist by trade, headquartered in St. Louis and Cleveland. She helps clients sort, purge and organize clothing. Marks has a Master’s in Public Health with a focus on social and behavioral sciences, something that has honed her skills for understanding human behavior.
She won me over with a few words: “My goal is to get to know you and understand your lifestyle to ensure your outer appearance accurately depicts your true inner self.”
A curator of more than 100 closets, she assured me she wouldn’t run screaming into the night when she saw this manifestation of my psyche. She didn’t.
Instead, she assessed my roles and goals, my aesthetic sensibilities and comfort zone. Then, we determined who I want to be and what that “me” will wear.
In examining the shadows that shape my closet angst, I saw how my personal history informed my attire. I reflected on how my philosophy, friends, cultural background and daily activities move my fashion decisions.
Freud might suggest the abundance made up for the limitations of Catholic school uniforms. Or, perhaps, I had been trying to find myself after divorce. Or, maybe, I’m more like an actor, choosing completely different costumes for each and every role.
Whatever the case, we pruned my closet to express my unique, powerful self without fracturing into personas and costumes....
We all have friends or relatives on our gift-giving list who are not looking at toy catalogs or the latest kitchen gadget. They are the dear individuals who are gracefully enjoying life and aging in place (code words for those over 60).
HERE ARE A FEW GIFT IDEAS FOR YOUR CONSIDERATION:
• In-home spa service of a facial, massage or mani/pedi
• One month of pet walking twice a week
• Car detailing
• Gourmet dinner prepared by a chef in the home for friends or family
• Fruit of the month club
• Two months of house cleaning — an awesome gift to free up time
• Personal shopper for groceries
• Consultation with a home designer
Many of these gift ideas are readily available in Northeast Ohio. Most businesses will provide a gift certificate or card that explains the details of the gift.
While it’s tempting to give a gift of the services of a professional decluttering and reorganizing company, pause and reconsider.
After the holidays, if you want to address a loved one’s clutter situation, consider what worked for one family and their grandmother who was overrun with too many odds and ends that were difficult for her to part with.
All of the children and grandchildren came over, and the grandmother had each person use small Post-It notes to identify items they wanted after she passed away. The grandmother was able to decide what to pack away to give to charity, friends and others.
The day provided an opportunity for the grandmother to spend time with family, recall memories and ensure that her cherished items would go to family members after her death.